40-Something Silver Linings

Recent silver lining searches have been tough, which for me means that it is more important than ever to ferret out positive bits in order to not be overwhelmed by uncontrollable change.  During my latest attempt to shift my attitude toward gratitude it occurred to me that the existence of more clouds equal more silver linings for discovery and focus as this crazy world increases its attempt to spin me off.  Digging through unrealistic cultural expectations and layers of personal emotions I finally unearthed these tidbits:

  • The older I get the better I am at trivia, especially ancient history (1960-1990 trivia).  My daughter has never even heard of the Double-Mint twins.
  • Since I now frequent pubs rather than dance clubs, I no longer have to buy sexy club clothing and can drink a pint in the comfort of jeans and a warm sweater.
  • Sex is better than ever because my husband and I have been together for a long time so we know every erogenous nook and cranny.  For me the most effective aphrodisiac is the intimacy and trust we share.
  • I do not have any credit card debt after learning the lessons of spending tomorrow’s money in my 20’s and 30’s.  I accept that I lack discipline in this area and choose to not tempt fate by adopting a cash-only policy.
  • I am a better cook due to years of culinary missteps.
  • My spiritual life is richer and more satisfying than ever because I do not allow myself to be confused by other’s beliefs, opinions, or hypocritical behaviors.  My relationship with God is as personal and exclusive as my marriage.
  • My pharmacist knows me by name.
  • I travel the well-worn path of foot-to-mouth less frequently and hurt people less often with sarcasm and dry wit.
  • As a remedy for dry hair my stylist advised that I wash my hair less frequently, so I spend less on shampoo washing my hair every other day, which is good because I spend more on lotions.
  • I am not objectified by men often and on those rare occasions that I am, I do not feel an ounce of indignation.
  • My slower pace means I do not sport the bruises so prevalent in my younger years.
  • A cold toilet seat feels heavenly during a hot flash.
  • I get what I need more often because I ask for it.
  • I have no qualms about wearing sweatpants during long car rides, which means my underwear do not become uncomfortably wedged.

They may seem like silly little things to be happy about, but I am willing to take even tiny bits of cheer to offset the inevitable reality of getting older.  Try making your own list and see what a difference it makes in your mood.  It should at least be good for a laugh.


  1. Karen · December 24, 2011

    One of my silver linings is that I found your blog and your posts always make me smile. Have a Merry Christmas.

    • K.S. Schultz · December 26, 2011

      And just when I thought Christmas was over I log in and receive your gift of appreciation, Karen. I can’t thank you enough for the encouragement and camaraderie!

  2. David · December 20, 2011

    I love your idea of more clouds equating to more silver linings.

    Ancient history? My mom needed to occasionally use the hand-crank at the front of her Chevy Coupe to get it started. My silver lining for all sorts of car issues: No car. Heavenly.

    I remember the challenges of home ownership: repairs, yard work and seemingly endless unexpected expenses. My silver lining: a studio apartment. Easy peasy.

    My silver lining for unruly hair, marred by the occasional strand of gray: I now have next to no hair and what I do have is a nice uniform . . . well, gray. That’s close to silver, right?

  3. jonesingafter40 · December 20, 2011

    A.men! Just hit the big 4-0 myself and love and accept the fact that I know who I am and what I like. Enjoyed this post!

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